Everyone wants to live a happy life. But what do we have to do to be genuinely happy? It’s easy to assume that material comforts or career success will ensure our happiness. But for an individual, secure relationships are the strongest indicator of a life well-lived.
Nothing brings us more joy and fulfillment than secure relationships with our friends, relatives, and romantic partners. During the COVID-19 pandemic, what can we do to develop and maintain truly secure relationships?
It will take some effort, but with these tips, you can invest in the relationships that will bring you joy.
Change Your Self-Talk
During challenging times, it can be hard to focus on positive self-talk. And when your thoughts turn negative, your loved ones might notice the change in your attitude, too. Negative self-talk can deepen your feelings of insecurity. It can also cause you to push your loved ones away from you and create distance in your relationships.
Aim to change the way you talk to yourself. In turn, this will transform the way you talk to your loved ones. Overall, practicing positive self-talk will help you to feel more secure in everything you do.
Steady Your Anxiety
When you feel anxious, it’s all too easy to pull away from those you love. Maybe you feel like you aren’t worthy of their support. Or perhaps you worry that they don’t want to have a relationship with you. Therefore, taking steps to steady your anxiety can improve your relationships.
When you have a positive self-image and take steps to boost your self-confidence, you won’t hesitate to reach out to friends and loved ones. Some people find that practices like yoga, meditation, or journaling work wonders for reducing anxiety. Additionally, I offer several beneficial Mindfulness Meditations to help you steady your anxiety.
Stay in Touch
Perhaps it’s been a while since you’ve seen your loved ones in person. It can be hard to feel close to people when you can’t physically see them. But coming up with creative ways to reach out and stay in touch can strengthen your bonds.
For instance, you and your friends could write letters to each other — there’s nothing like finding a friendly letter in your mailbox! If you and your significant other live in different apartments, you could drop off gifts for each other while social distancing.
Honest Communication
People who have secure bonds with their loved ones don’t push all their insecurities and worries down. They feel comfortable voicing their anxieties, knowing that their loved ones will be there for them to lean on.
If you feel down because of this pandemic, don’t try to brush your feelings under the rug. Feel free to speak up. Sharing these feelings with your loved ones can bring you closer. It’s crucial to be honest when you’re struggling. Real honesty can bring your relationships to a whole new level.
Develop Your Own Passions
Finally, independent people thrive in secure relationships. And with all of this extra free time at home, there is no better opportunity to develop your own passions and interests. You can indulge in the activities you adore. Knowing that you do not need to physically be with your loved ones to be happy can be life-changing.
Secure people know that solitude can be a blessing. By spending more time on your favorite hobbies, you’ll begin to feel comfortable with the prospect of spending time alone.
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Do you want to cultivate more secure relationships? If you’re struggling to develop a secure attachment style, therapy can help. Please visit my page about Relationship Counseling or reach out to today to discuss your options for scheduling your first session.